Cisgender People Take Many of These Things for Granted

Please read and re-post this list to make people aware of the hardships often faced by transgender individuals that cisgender people take for granted on a daily basis.

1. It is unlikely that I will be ostracized by my family and friends, fired from my job, evicted from my home, given substandard medical care, suffer violent or sexual abuse, ridiculed by the media, or preached against by religious organizations simply because of my professed identity or perceived incongruent gendered behaviors or characteristics.

2. I can be confident that people will not call me by a different name or use improper pronouns.

3. I never suffered the indignation of “holding it”, when both functional and unoccupied public restrooms are available. In fact, I don’t need to be concerned about public facilities segregated by sex.

4. If I am institutionalized, I don’t have to worry about being housed in the wrong section of a facility segregated by sex.

5. I am not denied entrance to appropriate services or events that are segregated by sex.

6. My childhood innocence was not interrupted with desperate prayers to a divinity begging to wake up the opposite sex.

7. I never grieve about my lost childhood and adolescence because I was born the opposite sex.

8. I will only experience puberty once.

9. I never worry about potential lovers shifting instantly from amorous to disdain and even violence because of my genitals.

10. I am unlikely to be questioned about my genitals, even less likely to be touched inappropriately or asked to see them.

11. It is unlikely that I would risk my health by avoiding the medical profession for fear of discovery.

12. I never considered hiding my body parts by binding or tucking.

13. It is unlikely that I would consider changing my voice.

14. If I have a professionally recognized and diagnosed condition, I am unlikely to be excluded from medical insurance coverage.

15. As a man, I am more likely to look my age, and have a body similar in size and shape to other men.

16. As a man, I am more likely to be satisfied with the functionality of my genitals.

17. As a man, I am more likely able to father children.

18. As a woman, I am more likely to have a body similar in size and shape to other women.

19. As a woman, I am unlikely to lose my hair before middle age.

20. As a woman, I am more likely able to conceive and bear children.

21. As a woman, I don’t have to dilate the rest of my life.

22. I am more likely able to achieving orgasm.

23. I will likely have $50,000 or more to spend or save for retirement.

24. I can’t imagine spending months and $1000s of dollars on a therapist so they can tell me something I already knew.
25. If I am physically healthy, I don’t think about having a hysterectomy, a mastectomy, massive hair removal, contra hormone therapy, vocal surgery, facial reassignment surgery, or genital reassignment surgery.

26. I have a better chance of reaching old age without taking my own life.

27. At my funeral, it is unlikely that my family would present me crossdressed against my living wishes.

28. I never worry about passing gender wise. I am oblivious to the consequences of someone failing to do so, and consequently loosing my cisgender (non transgender) privilege. In fact, I have the privilege of being completely unaware of my own cisgender privilege.



3 comments on “Cisgender People Take Many of These Things for Granted

  1. kpo says:

    no one will ask me what my real name is, or stalk me to find old pictures of me

    in a facility with segregated bathrooms, when i ask where the bathrooms are, i am not misgendered by the staff and/or told that the wrong bathroom is the one for me. (today i went to a restaurant and asked the hostess if there was a bathroom. she told me “yeah, down the hallway–it’s the second door on the left”–the women’s room. i was not presenting in any way feminine, but i was gendered female by the hostess.)

  2. This is a great read, but gosh–how I wish there were more positive material to read about a trans-person’s lifestyle.

    Yea, you know what… living as a trans-person in this world/reality can be something of an emo trip into hell. But, in all honesty, who’s lot in this life isn’t wrought with pain and heartache?

    When you keep going… you keep fighting and pushing forward–you find a way out of that misery to living out your dream visibly.

    • For me this isn’t about an “emo trip” it’s about raising awareness of what the life of a trans* person is about. It’s not about pain and it’s not about heartache it’s about what is going on.

      Our dreams cost hundreds of thousands of dollars and in many places we don’t have the basic human rights of our lesbian,gay brothers and sisters.

      We are short handed in legislation so they can make the appeal to moderate conservatives (at least here in the US)

      This is just educating people on what cis gendered people don’t realize they have.

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